Root Cause

"Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom." I read that the other day and it was like "YES!" If you want to understand mental health, mental … Continue reading Root Cause

Face the Anxiety

You have anxiety. We all do, I promise. I get it. Sometimes that anxiety is a bit worse and can manifest in an anxiety disorder if it takes too much of your energy and joy away from life. I get that too. I was diagnosed with OCD five years ago. OCD is a disorder of … Continue reading Face the Anxiety

Share Your Story

First opportunity to share my story and pay it forward. When you experience heartache and don’t know why until it’s too late, that can have a profound effect on your life. Relationship themed OCD plagued me when I fell in love and when it was too late. I had already pushed the one person away … Continue reading Share Your Story

Fear of Better

How weird is it to say you feared feeling good? When you are stuck in the darkness it is so hard to see the light. I remember that I had gotten so deep into depression, OCD, and emotional pain that I had trouble thinking things would get better. There were slivers of light that brought … Continue reading Fear of Better

OCD Anxiety Wave

Ride up and down the worry hill. This is a sheet that was given to me in OCD therapy to explain the nature of the work we would be doing. OCD is all about a thought making us anxious and us doing things to get rid of the thought. Makes sense, right? Don't like what … Continue reading OCD Anxiety Wave

Anxiety Flare Ups Linger

When I have a bout of high anxiety that causes a cascade of thoughts, fears, and emotions, sometimes scary and unwanted, it doesn't just stop when it's over. I wish it did. I wish it were that easy; when the anxiety was gone I would restart life where I left off. However, it lingers. It's … Continue reading Anxiety Flare Ups Linger

The Times Have Caught Up to Me

When panic strikes, what do you do? I have been here before and I know how this feels. Since Sunday I have felt a shift in my moods and my underlying anxiety rose to a new level. Can't eat, nauseous, sweating, heart racing, general feeling of unrest. Aware of this feeling of loneliness. Something is … Continue reading The Times Have Caught Up to Me

What a Question!

The million dollar question! I just couldn't help but smile when I opened my Slack app and saw that typed out. Loaded. The question that has been my opponent for years and that I am just now getting a handle on facing. Fun fact: everyone has to face the unknown. The one constant thing is … Continue reading What a Question!

Allow Anxiety

Regardless of if someone lives with an anxiety disorder or not, it doesn’t mean they can't and don’t benefit from skills and strategies of handling anxiety. It doesn't mean others don't suffer from anxious brains. It doesn't mean I cannot use what I have learned to help others. In fact, I always do!  This morning a friend said, … Continue reading Allow Anxiety

Hard to Understand

People think they understand anxiety and depression but unfortunately, or fortunately, unless you suffer from the depths of the disorder then it is very difficult to fully understand and empathize. I am not saying no one gets it at all or someone can't express an understanding and possibly come to understand more clearly, but it is very … Continue reading Hard to Understand